
人物
聚光灯:
讨好型人格与歌唱
作者:贝芙琳
问“你是一个讨好型人格吗?”这个问题感觉有点奇怪。
我们很多人可能并非出于享受而“主动”取悦他人。
但如果可以避免,我们中的许多人可能都会选择避免冲突。
任何人类反应通常都处于以下一个连续谱系中:
“非常同意,我会尽量避免冲突。”
对比
“我非常同意我不回避冲突”
多年来的歌唱教学让我发现, 性格会影响人们的歌唱方式。这的确是一个真实存在的现象,尽管我无法进行任何带有统计数据的科学研究。
但我发现了以下情况。
那些有回避冲突倾向的人(无论是有意还是无意),通常更难大声说话或唱歌。
他们内心可能对歌曲怀有许多复杂的情感,但当他们尝试歌唱时,却发现很难将声音表达出来。就像他们内心可能充满愤怒,却习惯于将其压抑在心底一样。
(他们可能会选择压抑自己的声音,不发声)。
有些人会调整自己的语气,或者做一些他们原本不想做的事情,以免情况进一步恶化。
(他们会因为表达真实感受而失去真诚吗?)
他们如何通过歌声表达自己的灵魂?
既然我已经指出了这一点,那么现在应该不难理解为什么性格会影响唱歌了。
或许我们压抑自己的情感和观点是为了:
让别人更喜欢我们,或者
仅仅是让别人感觉更舒服(比他们实际需要的更舒服),或者
完全避免冲突
……塑造我们的心理,使我们把内心真实的声音保留在内心深处,而不是外泄出去。
顺便说一句,唱歌是日常语言的延伸。
我们也听人说过“尽情歌唱”。
所以这一切都息息相关——我们在日常生活中如何感受和表达真实的情感,会影响我们唱歌的方式。
性格方面,没有快速解决办法!
但了解自己在自闭症谱系中的位置,对于你想做出的任何改变(如果你想做出改变的话)来说,都是一个良好的开端。
同样,为了避免进一步激化局势,压低声音、改变语气有时也是明智之举。
但如果这是一种慢性且习惯性的反应,或许我们可以看看它会如何开始影响我们在说话和唱歌时的整体表现?
在结束之前,我想分享杰夫·布朗所著《心语》一书中的珍贵一页:

如果您想进行一次简短的交流(面对面/在线)以进一步探讨这个问题(并有可能获得“分组讨论”),欢迎您:
1. 安排试听课
2. 加入Singchology Circle ,这是一个社区平台,成员们可以在这里找到真实的自我和声音,并学习如何通过歌唱表达情感。点击此处了解更多信息。
尽情歌唱,探索你的灵魂!
需要帮助才能发挥出你最好的嗓音吗?
节省时间,比你想象中更快拥有理想的歌喉。
我为什么把它命名为“SingingTechniques INT ”?
My forte has always been teaching singing techniques (I especially love teaching total beginners from scratch, and polishing experienced singers to their best form!).
But it's not just about techniques, though they give you the fundamentals for your singing instrument.
It is also about your relationship with yourself, and your singing instrument:
I = Introspection
Singing requires a lot of introspection. Are you paying attention to your own feelings and thoughts? Are you paying enough attention to how your body feels? Singing requires a super high body awareness, and it is hence no surprise that people with a high body awareness find it much easier to learn and master singing, because they can adjust their body to do what the singing requires, faster.
It can be simple thoughts like, "Am i breathing correctly?", "Was I supporting for that phrase that I sang?", "Was my vocal placement high enough?, "What can I do better next?", etc
N = Nurture
People are almost always surprised by how disciplined (or deprived, depending on your perspective) singers need to be in order to upkeep their singing instruments, that is essentially their own body and health.
If our body, AND our health, is our singing instrument, are we keeping ourselves active to get a better breath going?
Are we stretching and exercising enough?
Are we sleeping enough, and well? (since there is a crucial relationship between sleep and the health of our vocal cords!)
Do we have a nurturing relationship with our mind too? For eg, are we kind to ourselves whenever we fail to hit a high note? Do we tell ourselves that we can be a work in progress and love our own voices too?
If regular water and sunshine are necessary for the best growth of a plant, are we supplying enough of what is required for our singing instrument to flourish and be at its best at all time?
T = Truth
The truth can refer to many aspects in singing.
Are we being authentic when we choose to sing in a certain way? Perhaps we like that style of singing when a certain singer sings it that way, but does it represent who we are in our innermost core?
What are we trying to prove? Are we trying too hard?
Is there a possibility that we are letting our ego take our singing down by insisting on singing the original key (which belongs to the original singer anyway!), OR NOT changing the key because we are scared to, or lazy to?
Is there any denial at all in all the choices we make for our singing instrument?
As we all know, the truth will set you free.
需要帮助才能发挥出你最好的嗓音吗?
节省时间,比你想象中更快拥有理想的歌喉。
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